Everyone wants a meaningful life. They want the day-to-day events of life to have some kind of overarching theme or underlying purpose. Though some may just go through the motions of existence, I think that we all want those motions to fit into a bigger picture – to find some construction and understanding of life’s individual events that gives meaning to the whole.
The way that I often find meaning in the day-to-day events of life is through my view that God is using all of those events to shape me, use me, and bring about His will for me. Suddenly a bad day at work is so much more than a bad day – it is an opportunity for God to teach me patience. Suddenly a conversation I have with a friend is so much more than a conversation – it is an opportunity for God to use me in their life. A rejection letter from a grad school is an opportunity for God to redirect my path and take me to where He wants to take me. An acceptance letter is an affirmation that I am on His right path for me. In everything, He is behind the scenes using the daily events of my life to guide and direct me, and to bring about an overarching story for my life that carries meaning and significance.
While this is all well and good, I think that the greatest challenge to anyone’s understanding of a meaningful life comes when events happen to them that just flat-out seem meaningless. Where, try as they might, they simply cannot fit the events into the rest of their life experience in such a way that they find meaning and purpose in them. Sure, I can accept a rejection letter from grad school as simply a means for God to direct me down a different path, and sure I can still trust Him that He is in control here, taking me in the direction He wants to take me…
…but could I accept the murder of a loved one as an event that carries that same meaning and purpose? Could I accept a senseless act of violence as something that God desired for me and planned to use in my life? I have never had such an event happen to me, but after meeting so many people for whom these kinds of events have happened (tsunami survivors, Sudanese refugees), and after hearing so many stories about other people for whom these events have happened (family members of Virginia Tech shootings, people in Greensburg, Kansas who lost 95% of their city to a tornado last week)…after hearing all these stories, I just start to ask myself, “How would I respond to these tragedies if they touched me personally?”
Events that happen to me personally carry the most weight in my personal understanding of the world, and if I had events happen to me like this that seemed so senseless and hurt so much, could I in all honesty walk away from those events confident that there is a God in control of the universe who has a plan for me, who loves me, and who is using the events of my life to bring about a meaningful existence? Could I take something that is senseless, tragic, and at times downright evil, and could I fit it into my life experience as an event that carries meaning? Could I even hold onto my belief that all the other events that populate my life carry meaning too if this one is glaring at me seeming so meaningless?
Maybe I ought to read the book of Job in the Bible right now, as these are no doubt some of the issues he wrestled through when God allowed all his wealth and all his children to be taken from him overnight.
Senseless and meaningless. It would be hard to respond to such a tragedy as anything but that, I would think. And yet I am reminded of some of the Christians I met in Sudan – people who lost their entire villages to bombs or rebel armies, and who still came out feeling that God had a meaning and a purpose for them simply because He had spared their life, rather than allowing them to be massacred with the rest.
I don’t know what all of the answers are. I don’t know what’s the best way to find meaning in tragedy and suffering. But I do know that our meaning cannot be found solely in what God does in our day-to-day life. Sure, some meaning can come from this. Family relationships are the hugest blessings. Friendships are to be cherished. The blessings and affirmations that He chooses to pour out on our lives every day should be valued and given thanks for…
…but at the same time, these things are all fleeting, and can leave us completely empty if we find all our meaning in them. Family and friends can be lost. The blessings and affirmations in our day-to-day life might not always be prevalent or apparent.
Meaning cannot be found solely in what God does in our day-to-day life…but it must also be rooted in what He has done for our eternal life. Through the resurrection of Christ, those who put their faith in Him have our meaning and our hope set in Heaven. We are promised an inheritance that will never perish, spoil, or fade – and of this we can be sure. Through the suffering and resurrection of Christ, we can await a place where suffering is no more – where evil is no more, where tragedy no longer strikes. No more senseless killings or meaningless losses. We can look forward to a place where God can fully display His love and His goodness – where meaning is sure, and where hope is ever-present.
A few thoughts…